I set goals starting November of last year to work on my Obstacle Course Race Training. I had “Monkey Bar Training” on my list every week.
A couple of times I went out there to do it. But mostly I didn’t, so I failed the Monkey Bar Obstacle at Race The Freeze this month.
I abhor excuses.
I was raised to never try. That most of the time it’s not worth making an effort. And if you do, someone or something else made you fail.
Somehow, in my grown-up life I developed this need to not make excuses. (Ummm… minus the old saying that I’m supposed to not blame my parents for my bad decisions as a youth and young lady. I absolutely blame them! We ARE a product of our upbringing! There is no miracle age when we are able to make smart decisions despite bad teaching by bad parents. Sorry to disappoint!)
I read a book last year called 10X Rule by Grant Cardone. He wrote chapter that reminded me of why excuses are a bad idea: it puts results that affect MY life in someone else’s hands.
If I take responsibility for my actions; if I blame myself for my failure, it empowers me to improve!
When I failed at those monkey bars I didn’t say much. But in my mind, I was mad about the level of difficulty they set them at: Every other bar rolled in my grip so that it made strength to travel hand over hand thru the monkey bars moot (which I have). I needed a special skill to not lose grip of the revolving cylinder as I swung to the next bar. I thought it was totally unfair.
I resisted rehearsing my excuses: “It was set too hard!” “they should have….” “They shouldn’t have…..” “I can do monkey bars!” But I still heard them in my head.
There is a difference between an excuse and an actual sound reason for what happened. The Truth is: I did NOT PRACTICE monkey bars. I would not have practiced that obstacle as it was in the race — that was totally unexpected. But, if I had more minutes acting like a chimpanzee, there is a good chance I would have overcome.
This admission is empowering! It makes me want to do better next time.
Have you been late driving during rush hour and blamed traffic? Have you gotten sick and blamed the illness? Or other people for “giving it to you?” Have you lost a match/game and blamed your injury?
I know we all have, and sometimes need excuses in a way. But taking responsibility for your timing, your nutrition, your exercise and rest for example, you put your fate in your own hands. You get to do better next time you have to be somewhere at 9:00 a.m., or next time you’re in crowded public area, or preparing for your sport.
Empower your life by having a NO EXCUSES policy.